There is a lack of romance in my relationship.
Its no one fault like I said its was never a big thing for me and The BF. This doesn't mean he is not incredibly sweet and thoughtful (hello he checked and refilled all the fluids in my car, stayed at my hospital bed side and has even bought me tampons!!!!) because he can be I think this has to do with the romance and passion of our youth. And that ship is out in the harbor and its a pain to get to.
Let me explain....remember when you were younger and newly in love and you would make grand gestures to express that love. Romantic getaways, hand holding and sexy games of strip poker (maybe the last one was just me).
When you were in your 20s and childless you thought whip cream was not just for dessert it was something yummy to lick off your partner when you felt playful. Now you think "Really whip cream....its just sticky and I will have to shower after wards when I really want to watch Letterman."
In your 20s you would make love anywhere outside, in a car, the kitchen floor. Now you think, "Damn this is hurting my back, knees and neck."
In your 20s before you had kids you had time to come up with elaborate "love" treasure hunts could spend time planning a naked picnic. Now you think, "OMG I finally found you...now I can relax."
But The BF and I missed out on all the young and in love and no children dating. Not that my 36 years and his 40 years is old (ok he is a little old) but between work and kids and dinner we are tired. And planning all these things takes time.
Please help all my smug (heehee a little shoot out to my girl Bridgette Jones) married friends. How do you find time for the romance? Not just sex but romance!!!!!
Excuse the rantings of a this single girl in a committed relationship. I'm very muddled this week.