A Girl Named Michael: Admitting You Have a Problem is the First Step

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Admitting You Have a Problem is the First Step

I read a blog recently that was very inspiring, it caused me to pause and seriously exam my life. Yes it was that good of a post.

So thanks to Stephanie over at Babes Rockin Miami I am going to reveal a secret...okay not a secret but I am going to say something out loud I have never before said out loud. I am fat, and not just OMG my jeans are tight, I am FAT. Seriously fat I'm at least 83 pounds over weight. I am pretty sure they call that obese. I call it Fatty McFatty.

I haven't always been this fat. I use to be less fat but I was always the chubby one, and I don't mean I am 'build" different from my friends although I was I was fat in high school and got fatter in college and even fatter after college. I have horrible eating habits; portion sizes to big, lots of eating out, I am a huge fan of soda, and oh yeah I love sugar!!! I also hate exercise, sweat is yucky.

Notice how I am using the dog to hide my body.

Normally I would say I am okay being fat. I have a pretty face. I am fat and fabulous. Lets face it none of that crap is true. I may be comfortable with who I am but I am not comfortable in my skin. To be honest how could I be comfortable I am 5 foot 1.66 inches tall and I weigh 205 lbs....that'
s obese. I think the term is actually morbidly obese.

.I am also feeling brave enough to make a list of all the reasons I hate being fat.

Reason Being Fat Sucks

My knees hurt all the time. Seriously all the time. walking across the street is painful, standing in the kitchen to cook hurts.
Breathing has become more and more difficult especially going up stairs which is really bad when you live in a split level home.
Clothes that are really cute do not come in plus sizes and if they do they are not as cute on you as they are on your skinnier friends.
No energy....I am drained all the time. All I want to do is sit because I am so tired all the time.=, even simple tasks are hard.
Being described as cute for someone my size...seriously true story, people say really dumb things to you when you are fat.

I know in the past I have said I am going to get healthy and lose weight, I have said that a lot. I have never admitted how overweight I am. I think being honest and saying the words out loud and being honest about how fat I am is the first step in my recovery...do they have fatties anonymous?

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bequoted 37p · 627 weeks ago

You are extremely courageous to be so honest about your feelings and desire to become healthy. You need some accountability partners and to read this post everyday as a means of encouragement. Let me tell you SITStah, #3 is totally incorrect. There are tons of very fabulous, budget friendly clothing for the sexy, beautiful, and voluptuous (yes you). The best accessory is confidence. I've shared your post with a few SITS girls who are very much into fitness. They could likely offer some tips that I cannot. Andrea @ www.be-quoted.com visiting from SITS.

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SweetMJ13 19p · 627 weeks ago

Thanks Andrea....I would love more pointers to get healhty.

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Chasing Joy · 626 weeks ago

I can relate to all of what you write. I also have a lot of weight to lose. I'm cheering for you.

This is a very brave post.

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SweetMJ13 19p · 626 weeks ago

Thank you. I am very hopeful.

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Denise · 626 weeks ago

I hear you on the clothes front! Why in the world is everything cute made of stretchy stick to your middle spandex crap? When you're as short as we are (I'm 5'2") there's no where to hide it. I have to buy stuff at least one size up to not embarrass myself.

Now that you've focused on the cause of your creaky knees (I did NOT think of that!) and tiredness (I've been blaming the kids) you can motivate yourself to lose some weight. Have you tried low carb? I've done it a couple times, and though I've gotten tired of it after a while, it lets you drop 10 pounds real quick while keeping full on cheese, eggs and meat.

Good luck SITStah! (And thanks for checking out my post on Defiance. I'm hoping it's good!)

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SweetMJ13 19p · 626 weeks ago

I have tried everything low carb, low calories, eating lots of grapefruit....lol. This time I am focusing on just eating healthy size appropriate meals and exercise.

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purrfectlyme3 29p · 626 weeks ago

Kudos to you for making that confession. It takes a lot to do what you did and you should be proud that you were able to admit that you needed to make some changes. I'm one of the ones Andrea sent here and I just want to say, that this journey is definitely long and hard, but one worth traveling! YOU CAN DO IT! Trust me! And don't say you can't find any cute clothes! You CAN! ASOS (+size), Simply Bee, and Torrid are just a FEW places to try! Best wishes to you and Congrats on taking the first step! :-)

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SweetMJ13 19p · 626 weeks ago

Thank you for your support Britton...and the clothing ideas.

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tinarobmorley 93p · 625 weeks ago

I love sweet treats, so I try not to buy cookies and such things. If it's in the house, there's a good chance it will get eaten. I don't need the extra fat cells and my kids don't need it. We try to eat a helping of fruit at lunch and two helpings of veggies at dinner. I hope these ideas will be of help. Thanks for being so honest! Thanks also for visiting Amanda's Books and More from SITS. :)

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GarbiGirl · 615 weeks ago

I think you're beautiful and you have an awesome personality! I admire you for your courage in the things you've said, and I admire you for your strength and desire to make changes to become healthy. I need to make some serious adjustments for my high blood pressure, and that starts at home, not with fast food :-). It's time to slow down and face the home cooking for a change.
You are such a great cook and I'm looking forward to the recipes you'll be sharing :-)

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Jillese Lowry · 615 weeks ago

I have had a problem myself but have had some success with a few tips, I now am doing it again for health reasons, here are some of my tips maybe they can help. I keep a 64 oz. jug of ice water with me at all times, portions is big, not so much what I eat but how much, also I push my plate away with 1 bite left on it, with each meal it adds up fast, then after a week or so of doing that I go to 2 bites, lot of food not eaten when you think about it. Also I do leg lifts in bed, it takes about 3 minutes, lift your legs about 6 inches off the bed while tightening your stomache & count to ten, rest & repeat as many times as you can (usually 6 to 10) you will be sore, can lift your head up as well like a slight crunch & lean to right & left & it tightens love handles, once a day for the first couple weeks you will see a huge difference in your stomach & thighs

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benmo45 6p · 593 weeks ago

You've taken a big step; you're unhappy being morbidly obese. No amount of "cute clothes" ... even if they're made for plus-size women... will make you feel good about yourself. When you're nude, you don't like what you see or how you feel. That's bottom line. You're not alone, and you can lose weight, but first, you must visit a doctor to check your thyroid, your cholesterol, your blood pressure, your blood sugar, etc. Discover if you have a medical condition that needs to be monitored before embarking on a weight-loss journey, especially if it includes exercise.

I say this from experience... from the exercise instructor's perspective. When friends sign up for classes together, inevitably one of them has to quit because of a health issue... high blood pressure, heart disease, torn meniscus (knee pain), etc. that suddenly becomes an issue because more strain is placed on the body's systems during exercise, which is usually good. If you embarrass easily, you don't want to run the risk of falling in class or having to call for an ambulance because you suffered a heart attack.

I know what you're thinking... some skinny exercise instructor is trying to keep me out of class. I was fat 23 years ago, and did a decent job keeping it off for 15 of those years, but it's creeping back... and creeping faster. In the past year I've gained 8 pounds, and now I am 40 pounds over the weight recommendation for my height. I'm waiting on results of a thyroid test, because something is wrong.

Start with drinking more water and reducing portion sizes. After you see a doctor, find a group exercise class. Women of all shapes, sizes and experience levels can offer encouragement and motivation. The important thing is to begin, and to participate regularly... 3-5 times a week. Find $30-$40 a month in your budget. Good luck!

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