What makes you feel valued at home? At
work? Life in general? Is it important to you to have others notice
your worth? That seems a lot to tackle with one blog post and I am
not going to tackle a lot of it. I am going to talk about a friend of
mine that I believe has value but is not feeling it right now.
First I have to say that this person
and I do not always see eye to eye. In fact we have been known to
butt heads and not speak to each other. This is not always ideal
since we see each other a lot but at least we are always polite when
we we are disagreeing.
I am not going to mention her name but
I want her to know that I see her and value what she does in my life
and the life's of others. She is probably the most compassionate
person I know and always has room in her life for people. She offers
her help often and was generous enough to offer help to anyone who
needs it.
Her heart is as big as the state of
Alaska and often lets people in even though she knows she may get
hurt. I am personally amazed by this ability, I often keep people out
and at arms length to avoid any messy emotions that may smear my
mascara. She is okay with it. I once heard her say what if I am the
only person that helps them.
The thing that she does very well is make sure to tell others that they are valued. She can find the littlest thing focus on it and help others to see the good in the situation.
I feel like we have moved away from this practice. Some how we have got the perception that telling people their value will diminish our own value. My friend knows the truth it doesn't take away from you...it has nothing to do with you. Telling a person that they value or a kind gesture to say thanks will not effect you in anyway. It may even make you feel good about your day.
I am struggling with how to help my friend feel that value and to be honest there is nothing I can do in this
situation. Which is not an easy thing for me after all I am a fixer
and fixing is what I do. I am going to ask who are the people in
your life that you value?
Have you told them recently I value you and
all that you do?
What have you done to express your appreciation
without words?
Are you good at telling people or bad?
Have you told you significant other? Family? Co-workers? The checker at the local megastore?
I hope my friend feels valued again soon.
